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The Ugly Side of a Beautful Sport

When my daughters took classes at the Parkettes National Gymnastics Center here in Allentown, I was struck by how different the style of coaching was. In the sports I'd played in my youth, like baseball, the coaches actually showed you how to catch, throw, and hit. But in gymnastics, the coaches told kids how to do the various things gymnasts do, but never actually demonstrated.

One time, as I watched my daughter and a few other kids try and clumsily fail to do some kind of tumbling thing, I asked someone why the instructor didn't just show the kids how to do it. "That's not the way they teach gymnastics," she replied with a shrug.

At the time, I didn't think much of it. It was clear that whatever they were doing worked with elite athletes, since Parkettes is a world-class training facility. While my daughter and the other non-elite kids tried and failed to master the basics, some of the best gymnasts in the U.S. were working on their skills and routines on the other side of the building.

But until I read this interview with former Parkettes star Jennifer Sey, I didn't know this about some of those coaches:

Throughout the book, you make elliptical references to male coaches who are attracted to young girls and imply that your own personal coach, John, was one of them. What did you mean when you said that he was "lewd and lascivious" and "may have liked being near all the barely dressed teens, but ... never explicitly let on"?

He was never inappropriate with us, but he was a really flirty guy, and we all saw that. And sometimes the women he flirted with were very close to our age -- 18, 19 years old, and we were 15 or 16. There were a lot of things he did that made me feel weird -- he was a weird guy. The conditions of the sport are strange, and that was what I was trying to say. Most men that coach women gymnasts have never been gymnasts themselves. So I always wondered, even as a child: Why do these men want to coach little girls? In some instances, it's purely financial. But I think in the minority of cases, there are men who are interested in little girls.

Man, that's creepy. I wrote about another creepy aspect of Parkettes in this post from my old blog:

While watching [my daughter], I got into a conversation with the mother of a 12-year-old girl who is on that track. This girl is at level 9, which is two steps away from the "elite" designation. Elite gymnasts are the ones who compete internationally. But the level-10 gymnasts, the mother told me, are virtually guaranteed college scholarships. One recent level-10 gymnast at this club was offered 45 college scholarships, she said.

That's not a typo: one kid, 45 scholarship offers.

Of course, that got my attention, but then the conversation went a different direction, and we started talking about the type of commitment that gets a kid to that level.

She told me she home-schools her daughter, because the regional and national travel, on top of daily practice, makes a normal school schedule impossible. She didn't say how much all this costs. But when I told her I'd heard from a friend that it costs $1,000 a month to compete at that level, she said it wasn't that high, but implied that it wasn't a whole lot less.

So just when I was thinking that a few years of travel and training would negate any financial benefit of a college scholarship, the conversation took another turn:

Her daughter came over, with one foot bandaged. They had a quick back-and-forth, and then the daughter ran off to continue training.

I asked what was wrong with her daughter's foot. She said, "Oh, they think it's a stress fracture. But they don't want her to go see a doctor."

Why not?

"A doctor'll just tell her to stay off it. And then she'll have to quit training. If you see a doctor, you have to do what he says."

If I read this correctly, she was talking about legal liability; the club has none, as long as the kids don't see an actual doctor for their injuries. As soon as they see a doctor, it's game over. At that point, ignoring the doctor's advice could set up the gymnastics center for a lawsuit.

I then said what anyone who knows me would expect me to say: "If any coach tried to tell me whether or not I could take my kid to a doctor, there would be trouble."

She smiled. "Then your kids couldn't do this."

Apparently that policy regarding doctors is a new one. When Sey competed for Parkettes, in the mid-1980s, it went like this:

You portray the Parkettes team doctor, Dr. Dixon, as something of a charlatan, a man who deferred to your coaches about medical decisions and sent you back to the gym to train with a concussion in one instance, a freshly broken ankle in another.

The way he would probably present himself is that he aided you in getting back to your goal. It's easy to look back and say that as a doctor, he should have had my physical and mental health at heart, but he saw my best interests as getting me back into the gym so I could compete and win. I think that most orthopods and specialists who treat high-level athletes are probably very similar. If you talk to the doctor for the San Francisco 49ers, they probably send people into play who aren't 100 percent. What made the situation unique is that we were children.

The two passages I quoted from the Salon interview aren't even the worst parts of Sey's story, which I assume just scratches the surface of the details revealed in her new book, Chalked Up. The book's subhead offers some broad hints: "Inside Elite Gymnastics' Merciless Coaching, Overzealous Parents, Eating Disorders, and Elusive Olympic Dreams."

We all dream of our children achieving some level of excellence in their pursuits, but it's nice to think my daughters aren't the type of athletes who'd get caught up in that kind of madness. They're good at what they do, but we'll never have to worry about their talent forcing us to make choices that could ruin their chance for a normal, happy life.

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Whose choice is it?
Perhaps more significant to the question of whether your daughters will become freakishly driven Sey-types is the fact that you and your wife aren't the kind of PARENTS who would get caught up in that kind of madness.  Unlike the Sey mother you spoke with, you seem (wisely) unwilling to gamble a small fortune and your children's health on the longshot of Olympic--or even college athletic--glory.  
andrew@dynamicfitness.us blog.dynamicfitness.us www.dynamicfitness.us

by Andrew on Apr 24, 2008 10:26 AM EDT   0 recs

whew!
I guess I'm clear of prostate cancer

More seriously the risk in society is that despite the vast majority of good coaches and parents there are some real sikkos out there both parents and some children's coaches.

The problem with some sports parents is they forget that children are children-  Sure skill development is important but so is fun. Which  by the way Io think the partial cause of problem of obesity is that people see elite athletes and feel that they or their children can't participate or things like Phys-ed where its just not much fun if your the fat kid or the last picked.

by finecrowd on Apr 24, 2008 11:58 AM EDT   0 recs

whew
(sorry the last post was not very comprehensible)

I guess I'm clear of prostate cancer

More seriously the risk in society is that despite the vast majority of good coaches and parents there are some real sikkos out there including parents and children's coaches.

The problem with some sports parents is they forget that children are children-  Sure skill development is important but so is fun. Which  by the way I think is a partial cause of problem of obesity.People see elite athletes and feel that they or their children can't participate or things like Phys-ed where its just not much fun if your the fat kid or the last picked.

by finecrowd on Apr 24, 2008 12:02 PM EDT   0 recs

All good points
John Ratey, the psychiatrist, talks about that in Spark, a book I recommend highly. (I know I've written about it at least once on MPF.) The entire opening chapter is about a PE program in a suburban Illinois school district that focuses on movement, efficacy, and fun, and in the process boosts tests scores while virtually eliminating obesity among the student population. (The stats are amazing.)

In Ratey's telling, it seems like they go out of their way to obliterate the "I was always picked last" stigma of gym class.

I'm not an educator or a coach, but as an enthusiast I've never felt that "skill development" and "fun" were mutually exclusive. My 9-year-old daughter's soccer coach has them doing more agility-type training this spring, and the kids love it, despite the fact it's much harder than other types of training.

by Lou Schuler on Apr 24, 2008 12:22 PM EDT to parent up   0 recs

girls gymnastics
My daughter is a competitive gymnast (level 7). She is absolutely ancient for a level 7 gymnast. She's going to be 16 in August. She is and has been tiny her whole life and there isn't a lot of athletics available to tiny girls (jockey?) so I am glad she has stuck with gymnastics. We long ago established that school was her first priority (had plenty of battles early on over this one) and gymnastics came second. I don't understand the lottery mentality of parents with respect to sports. The odds of any kid making it to the elite level or professional sports is incredibly slim. And then to compromise their physical well-being while they are still children. I have a really hard time with that.

I do wonder about the drive to be elite eliminating so many kids who are just in it for the fun or to do something well, even if it isn't great. My daughter's team is very unusual in that they do not exclude girls if they don't continue to move up the ladder. Many gyms push the girls out. How many 16 year olds would stick with gymnastics if they were on a team where all the level 7's were 9 years old? Many girls have limited athletic opportunies as teenagers. We should be doing more to include every kid in athletics, not make it harder for them to get in and stay in.

sharon in boulder, co

by sbadian on Apr 30, 2008 12:19 PM EDT   0 recs

Right on, Sharon
I couldn't agree more.

by Lou Schuler on May 1, 2008 7:34 AM EDT to parent up   0 recs

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