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Hang In There

When I was growing up, my family had a cleaning woman named Margaret.  Life dealt her some rough cards over the years:  she had chronic respiratory problems; a son died way too young.  Nearly every week of Margaret's decades-long employment, when my mother would ask her how she was, Margaret would say, "I'm hanging in there, Mistress Heffernan."

I found myself thinking of Margaret today as the God-awful news about the economy kept rolling in, hour after hour.

All we're hearing these days is doom, gloom, more doom, and then some more gloom.  No matter who gets elected in November, half the country's going to be mad about it.  Meanwhile, we've got ourselves a forest of brush fires to put out.  In the words of Bruce Springsteen, it's going to be a Long Walk Home.

I have no brilliant words of solace for these unfortunate circumstances, but I will say this.

Most stories of personal tragedy begin with a line like this:  "Pete was going along fine, but then [his wife left him, he lost his job, the bank took his house, his son went to jail]."  In other words, there's an event that appears to change everything in Pete's life, and sets him on a fast track to being drunk, 50 pounds overweight, penniless and alone.

To my mind this initial speedbump isn't the most important part of Pete's story:  he suffered a setback--which happens to all of us:  me, you, the neighbor who came over to my house yesterday to tell me he'd lost his job.  

But it's not the setback that really screws up Pete's life.  It's the choices that Pete makes next.  Pete starts drinking.  He stops playing racquetball.  He stops connecting with his loved ones.  He stops thinking he deserves to take care of himself.

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So I'm going to don my Dr. Phil bald-cap and say that if things start to go south for you, if you hit a hiccup--and I bet that will be happening to a LOT of us in coming weeks--don't stop exercising.  It's going to be tempting to throw in the towel, to just blow off your gym routine because hey, everything else is going to pot, why not grow a pot belly too?

I implore you, don't.

Don't, don't, don't.  Stay the course.  Exercise as hard as ever.  Recommit to it.  Compete at something.  Try something new.  Dig in and go at it like a madman. 

Sounds like the words of an evangelizing fitness-monkey, winding up the same old organ-grinder as the Titanic goes into the frosty, briny deep.

But consider:  for most of you, exercising is something you do well.  It releases beneficial hormones that balance our crazy, wildly swinging emotional states and make us feel calmer and more in control.  We feel healthy.  We feel more able to weather storminess.  We're reminded that there's more to life than fixating on the capricious vacillations of the Dow Jones or the latest political polls.  Working out reminds us that we're physically resilient, and from there, it's just a short imaginative leap to recognizing that we can bounce back from other kinds of hardship too.

I like to make mock and sport of exercise and fitness even as I promote it, simply because a lot of the time it seems like a pretty absurd way to spend one's time, much less make a living, but I firmly believe that exercise and fitness have kept me from going straight into the abyss on more than one occasion.

I spent much of the last year pursuing a job that would have changed life significantly for me and my family.  I sailed through one job-application hoop after another.  My interviews went brilliantly.  The big boss was impressed.  I was given a conditional job offer.  I was days away from starting my training with them.

And then they pulled the plug on me for reasons so insubstantial and asinine that to this day I can hardly believe that it actually happened.

For a few weeks there, aside from the support of my family, the only thing that got me out of bed in the morning, that kept my keel remotely even, was my exercise program.

Sure, I'm a fitness freak.  Of COURSE I love to exercise.  Of COURSE I find it therapeutic.  But I'd wager that even those of you for whom exercise is more of a chore will probably find some solace in the 'business-as-usual' feeling of keeping yourself healthy even when life is throwing you one curve ball after another.

So today I'm encouraging everyone, when the chips are down, and the alarm rings to wake you for your morning workout, don't turn it off.  Get up and get it done, even if you feel like the world is crashing around your ears, and even if it's the one good thing you do for yourself all day.  Carpe that diem, no matter how dire that particular diem may seem.

Hang in there.

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Absolutely agree

My wife & I are in our mid-40s. She has had some serious health problems in the last month that have essentially confined her to her bed. This has meant that I have had to do my job plus take care of our two teenage daughters plus take care of the standard household stuff that she has always so ably handled. So I’ve been fairly busy the last month.

But I haven’t missed one workout for exactly the reasons that you pointed out. It provides some semblance of normalcy. It provides some anchor to my day. It lets me express any aggression that I might have. I just keep lifting the heck out of things while life is otherwise throwing me a curve ball.

It has kept me sane so far.

by samoore on Sep 30, 2008 1:07 PM EDT reply reply actions actions   0 recs

Exercise and depression

Please don’t ask me to provide any links, but I’m certain there have been at least a handful of studies that have shown that regular exercise is at least as effective — or even more effective — than prescription drugs at relieving depression. Now, those studies may well have focused on the usual cardio machine workouts that most researchers are still stuck on when they think of “exercise.” Me, I prefer to lift heavy s*** repeatedly. But I’d be willing to bet the equivalent of one month of unemployment benefits that a dose of “iron” 3 or 4 x per week is an effective bulwark against letting personal setbacks get the better of you.

by BobParr on Oct 1, 2008 10:33 AM EDT reply reply actions actions   0 recs

I've read the same studies...

…about exercise and depression; any link-happy research types want to dig those up for us?

Samoore—good on you, man. All the best to you and you family.

by Andrew Heffernan on Oct 1, 2008 2:00 PM EDT reply reply actions actions   0 recs

I enjoy the health benefits I get from my workouts, but normally I wouldn’t say that I intrinsically actually enjoy the workouts themselves. Especially running. Blech.

When I’m really stressed, however, that’s when I look forward to my workouts the most. It’s a nice chance to turn my brain off, crank up the music, and focus on lifting (sort of) heavy objects or pushing myself to run farther or faster. Sometimes its the only part of my day where I can get whatever I’m worrying about out of my head.

Dear Andy Reid, will you stop SAYING that you have to put your players in a better position to succeed and just *&^$ing DO it.

by BrianS on Oct 2, 2008 2:15 PM EDT reply reply actions actions   0 recs

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